Despite all that, the book is a fast, humorous read and so short that it soundn't take more than 2 or 3 sittings to read it, if not one. Based more in common sense and hard-won wisdom than boring research, it reads like one of the most interesting 3am bar conversations about dating you've ever had.I think the book would be better as a cute gift to lift the spirits of someone well grounded who just got dumped as opposed to serious study material for someone trying to improve their social skills. Even if you're past the dating stage of life, are happily committed or even married, this book will become therapy for your traumatized soul.In the realm of dating and attraction and meeting people, the dry seasons can be very dry, but when it rains it often pours and before you know it you have lots of new people in your life. A married man myself, I couldn't help but crack up after recognizing the former me in chapter after chapter.Robinson and Holloway have really tapped into the zeitgeist with this one.This notion of loving Black people radically is not a new concept, and loving Black people radically means more than just sexing us, partnering with us, or even creating family structures with us.
The 'advice' is a mix of What Everyone Knows (Girls want you to pay for the first date, don't make your first a movie date because you can't talk, etc) and Good Lord What's Wrong With You (insulting advice that you can only get laid if you get the girl drunk) mixed in a sarcastic, *arrogant* blend of spite and bile.
Otherwise, non-Black people dating and mating with Black people are showing us that they can only commit to loving parts of us, but not all of us.
And in the words of Mama Toni Morrison, “Thin love ain’t love at all.” I absolutely stand with Mason’s demand that whites (and I’d add other people of color) stop loving us thinly.
I’m sick of white people fetishizing black bodies when they’re laying up with them and then continuing to objectify black bodies as they lay bleeding in the streets due to a trigger happy racial profiling cop by justifying that officer’s actions.
Or just completely ignoring the tragedy altogether.” To be clear, it’s not only whites who desire Black bodies in their beds without being outwardly concerned about what happens to similar Black bodies in the streets; many other races of men and women stand for anti-Blackness while laying with Black bodies too.